Are you a wisdom practitioner?
Are you a wisdom practitioner?
Do you have the feeling that you could have made a wiser choice? Do you have the feeling that wisdom rules your life? On the whole, you may think of yourself as a wise, thoughtful human being. You think about things and with the knowledge, you have now, you can make your decisions? However, is that the only wisdom you’ve got? Do you ever think about the fact that your heart has wisdom as well? Are you a wisdom practitioner?
First of all, I hope you follow both your heart and your thoughts. When you have learnt to both feel and think things through, you are a lucky human being. The heart’s wisdom is not something that is always nice for yourself or others. It might feel different than you hoped for, since you can experience a feeling of discomfort, even though the feeling you have, does point out in that certain direction. You might have been thinking of a specific direction for your child’s life and discover that another path is living inside of him or her. You might have thought that you are on the right track, and then discover, it’s time to make a change.
Her behaviour spoke volumes
I remember a client coming by the other day. He was upset and confused after talking to his daughter. He was convinced he had been an open-minded, active, concerned parent who loved her to pieces. She had felt the opposite all along. Generally speaking, there were different values presented in her heart. She felt as if he did not care about her, but more about himself and how he cared for her. That made a huge difference for her. Her behaviour spoke volumes. The relationship between her and her dad was awful. It took them further away from one another than they had ever wished for. The more he tried, the less she wanted and pushed him away. Do you recognise this?
Usually, you THINK we come across as you think you do. For the most part that probably is true. When you take a close look at it though, you might discover that there is work to do. Perhaps, you’ve gotten too caught up in being convinced you are doing the right thing. Nevertheless, it is always important to stay awake and follow the signs you get. It’s time to express appreciation. It is easy to complain, push away, forget about all you’ve gotten and all the good things of your life. Somehow it takes some closer listening in order to appreciate and to inform someone about it. This girl really did not feel it. She definitely needs it and hopefully, she will get back to a healthy balance between what she needs and what her father needs.
Maybe you can be flexible enough and take a separate look at each situation. Unless you know right away from the bottom of your heart and with all thoughts; This is the right thing to do, say, not to express or whatsoever, you can rather take a mini-consult within yourself. This way you can stay in touch with the situation and it brings you to the here and now. When you stay calm and in the meantime take some time for this short-term-inner-therapy-tool, you will become more effective than just counting to ten. Do you need some help with this as a good start-up? Please make use of the free e-book LightSteps® and start right away.
Let every step be Light(er)