Do you remember what ‘respect’ means?
We all need respect
Do you respect yourself? Do you remember what ‘respect‘ means? It happened again, last weekend, here in Holland on an early Sunday morning: Two gay men walked hand in hand. An adolescent beat one of the gay men’s teeth out of his mouth with a bolt cutter. A group of maybe eight people were standing on a bridge, hanging around. The couple chose to take another route home since one of the two men felt some weird vibes. “Let’s take another route home.” Unfortunately, that was not the end of the story. It more or less started there. The group of young people, that were standing on the bridge, began to curse at them. The couple scolded them back. The beating was the result of this altercation. Since we know we should take a closer look into this, you need to understand the fact that we all deserve respect.
Why would you walk around with a bolt cutter in the middle of the night? Why would you walk around with it anyway? Did this group of youngsters feel threatened by this gay couple, because they were stealing bikes? Were they disturbed by them, stoned or perhaps restless with their own actions? If you have some conscience you would know this is not the way to go. Do they have as much courage individually, as they would in a group? Did they beat one of the men up for fear of their actions? Was this action a result of their upbringing, due to religious teachings about gayness being forbidden?
It has touched on memories I have of my own life. As a young child, I was violently bullied for many years in a row. Even though it has brought me many insights, I still wish it had gone another way. I figured out, after lots of spiritual, personal guidance by others and myself, what was going on inside of me. I would like to reach more people to help them out. There is a ‘shortcut‘ to yourself. It does not have to take so many precious years of your life as it did for me. You can turn around that personal helplessness you might experience. There is more in this world than what other people tell you. There is also a whole inner world, telling you what you need to hear. Another key point is to be able to recognise that spiritual voice of ‘you’. You are not crazy. You simply have not yet learned how to BE you. Most children are brought up by adults, who still have big problems inside themselves.
It seems like we still have no idea how to be ourselves, let alone to let someone else be themselves. You somehow still try to control the other person. Despite all the human rights, you probably noticed a lot of news isn’t that new at all: We betray one another and ourselves like it is the most normal thing to do. Regardless of all consequences, you reveal yourself as well. It seems to be more important to fit in than to experience what is living inside of you. There is so much diversity in this world, so why all this disrespect? There is a significant change you walk around with silent or less silent anger. Most noteworthy is the fact that even people who have all the money and success in the world, can betray themselves and commit suicide. Every single individual in the world has different DNA, meaning that this much diversity is out there!
You can not say to yourself:”I accept myself and others,” and beat someone else up. Therefore you can count on the fact that the person who hit the teeth from the gay man’s mouth, is not respecting himself. Maybe the gay man did not have a true sense of dignity for himself either. You might tell yourself that you do talk openly about it. Whatever you think, this silent world inside of you has a fixed frequency, stronger than you would like. Do some inner work and find out what you are up -to within yourself. Respect is something that does not come naturally anymore in this strange world. On the negative side, it is horrible, what happened to this gay men. On the positive side, there are many people here in Holland helping each other: Two men, women, children, giving one another a hand. They take a picture of it – or have someone else take a picture of it of course and publish it on whatever social media the would like. One union, empowering the wish for respect.
To learn to respect oneself, you must be willing to go down the rather lonely path of the heart. To put it another way: to get to know yourself, you need an honest self-inquiry, directed first to yourself instead of the world around you. Respect starts with you. Even when you are living under difficult circumstances, you still have your inner voice to listen to; you can still grow and make choices that will have different effects. You can use the free e-book ‘LightSteps®‘ by all means, to start to respect yourself. This way you will also teach others to respect themselves rather than by just talking about it. Good luck!
Keep it simple.