The delusion of gold rush
As with a gold rush, you might think you enrich yourself with a one-weekend workshop. A quick fix. Don’t we want it all? Avoid too much hassle and get rid of the problems you have here and now. This ‘gold rush’ is a delusion: most problems don’t occur overnight, and most problems can’t be fixed overnight. It’s delusional to think you will be able to resolve deep patterns. It’s a process, whether you like it or not. Furthermore, it’s also a distraction to focus on too many problems at the same time. Habits are from many influences from inside and outside. Let’s take a look at this a little bit closer.
Step by step
Even though your problems might be evident, it’s important to work on them step by step. First things first, I would say. If you do too much at a time, you might get further away from home, and you’ll have more problems than you started with in the beginning. Same thing for tasks you need to do: break them down into small steps, so you can at least take one step at a time and progress. No hop, spring and jump. Take your time and trust the process. Stay on it, though. Otherwise, you’ll lose track and you’ll be worse off.
It is also desirable you have at least one good coach, one person who you trust, to guide you through your process. Skip the gold rush and seriously work on whatever you need to work on. It might take months, or even years. Sometimes lifetimes, but you’ll be rewarded. Energy never disappears, ever. It can change into something else, sure. So when you put effort and energy into your process, and you are willing to emphasise the process instead of the goal, you’ll probably get more happiness out of it than just chasing the target and not caring how you get there.
Please notice the little victories. They don’t have to be visible. Let them be a spontaneous consequence of the inner work you’ve been doing. You are with yourself 24/7. In a certain way, you can’t run away from yourself. Yeah, sure, you can work, drink, eat, smoke, sleep, have sex or whatsoever too much – yes, those are all ways of running away from yourself – and still, it will come back to you, sooner or later. So every little step you take will be gold. Every small inch you gain towards yourself is gold. It’s the little things that make the difference. Real change is in the details. That takes time and dedication.
Life is a learning process. Enjoy your growth and value every little detail in it. It’s gold to recognise what you’re fine-tuning.
Life will reward you.
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