How can you convert tension into relaxation
Tension into relaxation
Do you seek tension or relaxation? You and I, we live in a world full of possibilities. However, each step you take brings more responsibility into your life. I hate that sometimes. Agreed? So off and on, I wonder how I can turn tension into relaxation since when I am tense, I don’t get much done. In one way or another, in addition to my tightly packed schedule of activities, I tend to lose track of the countless steps to take. Losing the big picture doesn’t work for me. Instead of figuring out what to do first, I allow myself to feel tension without turning it into relaxation. Do you recognise this? Would you like not just to KNOW how to do it, but also APPLY it?
Yesterday evening, I was doing homework for my own company. There are so many small, new, exciting and annoying steps to take, which are fine with me as long as I can keep a clear focus. I lose that vision occasionally. I get stuck and feel like I have so much tension that I am no longer open, let alone relaxed. There is no way I can breathe deep, since my anxiety doesn’t WANT to breathe deep. It wants to exist to the full extent. I decided to let it have it’s ‘fun’ and then have a good conversation with it. “Are you feeling pity for me? Did you come around the corner once again, since I felt I had a good day? Can’t you see you don’t bring me anything but disappointment? Can’t you stop and transform into something that supports me?” It might sound weird, but I do have a conversation with it as if it were a person.
As I can apparently allow tension – I’ve exercised that a lot – I thought it would be kind to apply relaxation, then see how I feel. “I have too much stuff on my to-do list to relax,” you might think. Just the thought of your never-ending to-do list gives you too much tension already. Oh yes, I know. “It isn’t me who made all this up. It’s my boss who always gives me too much work. There’s not enough time for all of it.” Relax and start to spend some time and energy into a good, fair conversation with him or her. Seek relaxation, or you won’t get anything done. It’s better do less in a day and do it well than do a whole lot in a day and none of it to your satisfaction, regardless of whether you work for yourself or a boss.
Yes, if you can ALLOW stress, you are also capable of allowing relaxation. There is balance in everything. That’s a law of life, whether you like that fact or not. We live in a world of duality. You can make it work for you or against you. If you are thin, make it work for you: dress well. If you are fat, make it work for you, too: dress well as well. Do you have no job and you would want to have one: make it work for you and at least start doing some voluntary work, so you stay in touch with the working mentality. Do you have a job you don’t like? Make sure you find another job you do want. Why waste time spending your precious time and energy in a position where you don’t experience any relaxation?
By allowing the panic and the stress, you can learn to realise that you can enable the relaxation, as well. It’s a matter of exercise. I always say:”If I can do it, you can do it”, since I am not a quick learner. Allow yourself to get one step beyond the habits you allowed. Be surprised by your behaviour. Start now when you want to learn more about similar issues.
Keep it simple.